Nick Berg’s father does us liberals no favors with his childish rants. Already, rightie blogs are pointing to this and saying, “See how liberals respond to the news of Zarqawi’s death?” I can’t stand Bush (which you may have figured out by now), but equating him to Zarqawi isn’t going to further our cause.

Mourning in America
By JOHN TIERNEY
Published: June 10, 2006

Michael Berg, a Green Party candidate for Congress on Long Island, announced on national television that he regretted the death of Abu Musab al-Zarqawi. He didn’t blame Zarqawi for beheading an American contractor. The man responsible was President Bush — “the real terrorist.”

Any other politician would have been vilified for saying that. But Berg, as the father of the American who was beheaded, belongs to a new politically invulnerable class. Arguing with someone in mourning just isn’t done — unless, of course, you are Ann Coulter and you have a new book to sell.

She managed to offend everyone from Hillary Clinton to Bill O’Reilly by suggesting that some of the activist widows of the Sept. 11 victims were enjoying their husbands’ deaths. That’s over the top even for Coulter. But she has identified a real problem: how do you conduct a political argument with grieving relatives?

Coulter faults liberals for exploiting victims and their relatives as human shields for their arguments against the war and in favor of gun control. But conservatives use these tactics too. President Bush had the parents of a slain Iraqi soldier stand up during the State of the Union address as a tacit endorsement of his policy. Republican widows of Sept. 11 victims have been exploiting their status to oppose the Democratic widows.

America is supposed to be a government of laws, not men, but the surest way to pass a law is to name it after someone, ideally a girl or woman. Dozens of states have passed Megan’s Law. There’s another measure against sex offenders in Ohio called Nicole’s Law, not to be confused with the Nicole’s Law in Massachusetts, which requires carbon-monoxide detectors in homes.

There is a federal Katie’s Law (giving money to rural police agencies), a New Mexico Katie’s Law (requiring DNA samples to be collected from suspects), and a Minnesota Katie’s Law (providing money to track sex offenders).

The ultimate in custom legislation was Terri’s Law, designed solely to prolong Terri Schiavo’s life.

There’s also Kristen’s Act, Jennifer’s Law, Amiee’s Law, Brian’s Bill, and the Hillary J. Sarias and Samantha Reid Date-Rape Drug Prevention Act.

Some of these laws undoubtedly make sense, but the names appended to them cut short the sort of debate required.

Grieving relatives certainly have a right to be heard, and their stories need to be considered by legislators and judges. But having tragedy strike your family does not make you an expert on public policy. Instead, it warps your perspective. You become the most narrow special-interest group, obsessed with redressing a personal loss no matter what the cost to society.

When Michael Dukakis was asked during a presidential debate if he’d want to execute a man who raped his wife, he blundered by calmly explaining his opposition to capital punishment. The audience wanted to hear an angry, vengeful husband, but Dukakis tried to be a dispassionate arbiter of justice — a completely different role.

When those roles are conflated by victims-turned-activists, the result tends to be good television and bad policy. The parents of abducted children couldn’t anticipate all the wasted police resources and harassment of innocent adults that resulted from their laws. Putting photogenic patients in front of Congressional committees is not the best way to divvy up budgets for medical research.

The widows and widowers of the victims of Sept. 11 are not urban planners who should get veto power over the rebuilding at Ground Zero. The parents of Americans killed in Iraq do not have special expertise in foreign policy.

Whether they support the war or not, they are expressing their personal views, and not necessarily even their slain children’s. Cindy Sheehan camped outside President Bush’s ranch in Texas to protest the war, but her son voluntarily re-enlisted before his death.

But as long as television viewers respond to pictures of tearful relatives, there’s no way to stop them from having a disproportionate influence.

I can’t imagine how I would feel if my child were killed. Nor could I imagine how my family would feel if I met a violent death, but I’m pretty sure I would rather not become a symbol for anyone else’s cause. The world doesn’t need a John’s law.